Coob leej neeg raug teeb meem kev sib deev ntawm ib zaug lossis lwm qhov. Peb yuav hnov qhov tsis txaus siab rau kev sib deev lossis kev sib raug zoo, kev nco tus kheej, nyuaj rau kev ua tiav lossis txhawb nqa kev xav, lossis txawm tias tsis muaj peev xwm sib deev. Nws muaj peev xwm hais tias kev kho mob hlwb tuaj yeem pab tau, txawm li cas los xij. Xijpeem qhov teeb meem, txiav txim siab tham nrog kws kho mob txog koj cov kev xaiv - kev kho tus kheej, kev sib deev nrog tus khub, lossis tuaj yeem daws qhov teeb meem los ntawm lwm txoj hauv kev.
Cov kauj ruam
Ntu 1 ntawm 3: Nrhiav Tus Kheej Tus Kheej
Kauj Ruam 1. Nug kom xa mus
Txhawm rau nrhiav kev kho mob hlwb rau teeb meem kev sib deev, pib nrog koj tus kws kho mob ib txwm muaj thiab thov kom xa mus rau tus kws kho mob. Koj tus kws kho mob tej zaum twb paub txog kev xyaum nyob ze lossis cov kws kho mob tshwj xeeb kom pom zoo. Yog tsis yog, nws tseem tuaj yeem pab koj nrhiav tus kws kho mob uas tsim nyog.
- Tsev neeg nyob ze kuj tseem muaj tswv yim. Koj yuav muaj kev ntseeg siab ntxiv txog tus kws kho mob yog tias koj muaj lus pom zoo los ntawm tus neeg hlub.
- Xav tias dawb nug cov phooj ywg ze rau kev xa lossis cov lus pom zoo, ib yam. Koj tsis tas yuav hais qhov teeb meem yog dab tsi, tsuas yog koj tab tom nrhiav tus kws kho mob. Tib yam mus rau cov lus pom zoo los ntawm lwm tus neeg ntseeg siab.
Kauj Ruam 2. Nrhiav tus kws kho mob muaj ntawv tso cai ntawm koj tus kheej
Koj tseem tuaj yeem sim tus kheej nrhiav tus kws kho mob hlwb hauv koj thaj chaw, hauv online lossis los ntawm kev sab laj cov peev txheej kev noj qab haus huv hauv zej zog. Qee lub vev xaib zoo li Psychology Niaj hnub no tuaj yeem coj koj mus rau tus kws kho mob nrhiav thiab tshawb fawb tshuab. Txwv tsis pub, saib mus rau hauv tsev kho mob nyob ze thiab cov koom haum tshaj lij.
- Sim online databases, raws li tau hais. Cov peev txheej no feem ntau yuav muab cov ntaub ntawv me ntsis ntau dua li phau ntawv xov tooj, zoo li kws kho mob qhov kev paub dhau los, qib kawm, thiab tshwj xeeb.
- Ntau lub xeev thiab cheeb tsam muaj cov koom haum kev xav ntawm lub hlwb, ib yam nkaus. Xav txog kev hu xov tooj thiab nug tus kws tshaj lij txog teeb meem kev sib deev.
- Sim koj lub chaw saib xyuas kev puas siab ntsws hauv zej zog rau cov lus qhia ntxiv lossis, yog tias ua tau, ib lub tsev kawm qib siab nyob ze lossis tsev kawm qib siab hauv tsev kawm qib siab ntawm kev xav.
Kauj Ruam 3. Nug cov lus nug ntau ua ntej txiav txim siab
Kev haum yog qhov tseem ceeb hauv kev nrhiav tus kws kho mob kom raug, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog rau cov teeb meem kev sib deev. Koj tsis tas yuav khom tus thawj kws kho mob uas koj ntsib. Hloov chaw, npaj kom nug cov lus nug txhawm rau tsim kom tus kws kho mob tsim nyog los pab koj, tias koj nyiam nrog nws, thiab koj txaus siab ua haujlwm ua ke.
- Nco ntsoov tias tus kws kho mob tau ntawv tso cai. Nws tuaj yeem pab taug qab los ntawm kev nug seb nws tau ua haujlwm ntev npaum li cas.
- Nug txog tus kws kho mob thaj chaw ntawm kev tshaj lij. Hais tias, "Kuv tab tom ntxhov siab/nyuaj siab/tsis yog kuv tus kheej thiab kuv muaj teeb meem kev sib deev. Koj tau ua haujlwm dab tsi nrog cov teeb meem zoo li no? " Koj kuj yuav tsum nug txog cov txheej txheem thiab kev kho mob.
- Tsis txhob hnov qab nug tus kws kho mob uas muaj peev xwm hais txog tus nqi, piv txwv li lawv them nyiaj ntau npaum li cas, nrog rau hom kev them nyiaj twg lawv lees txais. Lawv puas yuav lees txais koj li ntawv pov hwm, piv txwv?
Kauj Ruam 4. Pib tshawb nrhiav koj “dab neeg kev sib deev
"Thaum koj tau txiav txim siab ntawm tus kws kho mob, koj yuav tsum tau ua haujlwm ua ke kom nkag mus rau hauv qab ntawm koj cov teeb meem kev sib deev. Xav txog qhov no los tshawb nrhiav koj tus kheej "zaj dab neeg." Txhua leej txhua tus muaj kev sib deev - tsis yog koj li kev sib deev yav dhau los tab sis txhua qhov kev coj noj coj ua, poj niam txiv neej, tsev neeg, thiab lub hnab ntim khoom koj tus kheej cuam tshuam nrog kev sib deev. Muaj feem yog koj tus kws kho mob yuav sim nrhiav qhov teeb meem hauv cov teeb meem hauv qab.
- Cia siab tias tus kws kho mob nug txog koj lub tsev thiab lub neej ua haujlwm. Koj puas muaj kev ntxhov siab lossis txhawj xeeb? Koj puas muaj teeb meem ntsuas qhov xav tau ntawm kev ua haujlwm thiab tsev neeg?
- Puas yog qee yam los ntawm yav dhau los tom qab koj teeb meem kev sib raug zoo? Koj puas tau tsa kom pom kev sib deev tsis zoo lossis tsis zoo, lossis koj puas tau raug mob?
- Lossis tej zaum koj tau txhawj xeeb nrog qhov xwm txheej loj hauv lub neej - tuag, yug menyuam, sib nrauj, lossis txiav tawm haujlwm. Qhov no yuav piav qhia qhov tsis xav tau lossis txaus siab rau kev sib deev, ntawm lwm yam.
Ntu 2 ntawm 3: Tau Txais Kev Kho Poj Niam
Kauj Ruam 1. Saib nrog koj tus khub rau tus kws kho mob sib deev
Kev kho poj niam txiv neej yog hom kev kho mob hlwb tsim rau khub niam txiv uas xav hais txog teeb meem kev ntshaw, kev sib deev, lossis kev sib raug zoo. Txhua tus tuaj yeem siv tus kws kho mob sib deev tsis hais hnub nyoog, poj niam txiv neej, poj niam txiv neej, lossis kev nyiam sib deev. Tus kws kho mob sib deev tuaj yeem yog kws kho mob hlwb tab sis tseem yog cov neeg ua haujlwm hauv zej zog, kws kho mob, lossis cov kws kho mob muaj ntawv tso cai nrog kev qhia tshwj xeeb hauv kev sib raug zoo.
- Nug kom xa mus los ntawm kws kho mob lossis, tej zaum, los ntawm cov phooj ywg uas ntseeg siab lossis tus neeg hauv tsev neeg. Koj tseem tuaj yeem siv cov peev txheej uas tau hais los saum no ntawm cov koom haum kev puas siab ntsws hauv cheeb tsam, cov chaw khaws ntaub ntawv online, cov tuam tsev kev xav, thiab cov chaw saib xyuas kev mob hlwb hauv zej zog.
- Nrhiav kom haum zoo. Nug tus kws kho mob uas muaj peev xwm hais txog nws txoj kev kawm, ntawv pov thawj, thiab kev paub - puas yog nws tau ntawv tso cai los ntawm lub xeev, piv txwv li, lossis lees paub nrog Asmeskas Koom Haum Koom Tes ntawm Kev Qhia Kev Sib Deev, Tus Kws Pab Tswv Yim thiab Kws Kho Mob?
- Tshawb nrhiav seb tus kws kho mob puas tau ua haujlwm nrog koj qhov teeb meem kev sib deev tshwj xeeb. Tus kws kho mob sib deev tuaj yeem ua haujlwm tshwj xeeb hauv thaj chaw sib txawv xws li kev tsim txom kev sib deev yav dhau los, teeb meem poj niam txiv neej, thiab kev sib raug zoo hauv zej zog hauv kev sib deev muaj txiaj ntsig.
- Nco ntsoov: cov kws kho mob uas tau ntawv pov thawj tsis muaj kev sib deev nrog cov neeg mob. Kev sib cuag ntawm lub cev (qee zaum hu ua kev sib deev surrogacy) tsis yog ib feem ntawm kev kho poj niam txiv neej.
Kauj Ruam 2. Xav txog Kev Sib Yuav thiab Tsev Neeg Kho Mob (MFT)
MFT tsis zoo ib yam li tus kws kho mob poj niam, txawm hais tias lub luag haujlwm tuaj yeem sib tshooj. MFTs yog cov kws paub txog kev noj qab haus huv hlwb uas tau kawm paub txog kev kho mob hlwb thiab hauv tsev neeg muaj zog. Lawv tau ntawv tso cai los kho teeb meem kev xav thiab lub hlwb, suav nrog kev sib deev thiab kev sib raug zoo, hauv tsev neeg, kev sib yuav, lossis kev koom tes ze.
- Ib qhov zoo ntawm MFT tshaj li kws kho mob niaj hnub yog tias lawv tau kawm los kho tsis yog tus neeg nkaus xwb, tab sis tus neeg nyob hauv cov xwm txheej ntawm kev sib raug zoo lossis tsev neeg.
- Feem ntau, MFTs muaj qee qib kev kawm tiav. Lawv yuav tsum muaj daim ntawv pov thawj zoo thiab tuaj yeem los ntawm keeb kwm xws li kev puas siab puas ntsws, kev puas siab puas ntsws, kev saib xyuas neeg laus, kev saib xyuas tom tsev, thiab kev ua haujlwm hauv zej zog.
- Saib MFTs nyob ze koj online, xws li los ntawm Koom Haum Asmeskas Kev Sib Yuav thiab Tsev Neeg Kev Kho Mob qhov chaw kho mob.
Kauj Ruam 3. Ua raws txoj haujlwm kho mob
Feem ntau, kev kho mob rau cov teeb meem kev sib deev yog txheej txheem luv luv uas tsuas muaj qee ntu tsawg zaug. Nws tseem yuav nrhiav los daws cov teeb meem kev xav lossis lub hlwb uas ua rau koj muaj teeb meem kev sib deev, thiab qhia koj tus cwj pwm kom tswj tau cov tsos mob ntawm lub cev. Thaum cov xwm txheej cuam tshuam nrog yam xws li kev raug mob yuav siv sijhawm ntev dua, feem ntau khub niam txiv daws lawv cov kev tsis txaus siab hauv ob lub hlis txog ib xyoos.
- Cov kws kho mob yuav sim txheeb xyuas cov kev xav tsis zoo, yog tias qhov teeb meem tsis muaj lub siab xav, thiab sim pab koj txhim kho txoj kev xav tshiab txog kev sib deev. Ib qho txheej txheem nrov npe hu ua sensate focus, uas khub niam txiv kov lossis tuav ib leeg yam tsis muaj kev sib deev. Lub tswv yim yog kawm kom muaj kev nyab xeeb thaum muab thiab tau txais kev zoo siab ua ke.
- Txog rau kev ua haujlwm tsis muaj zog, cov kws kho mob yuav sim daws qhov kev ntxhov siab uas tuaj yeem ua tau thiab qhia ob niam txiv kom mob siab rau ntawm kev sib deev. Lossis, rau teeb meem nrog ejaculation ntxov ntxov, khub niam txiv yuav kawm paub cov txuj ci kom tso cai rau kev sib deev nyob ntev dua.
- Cia siab tias cov kev tawm dag zog no kom ua rau muaj kev xav zoo thiab tom qab ntawd tham txog koj txoj kev xav nrog tus kws kho mob hauv kev kho hlwb.
Ntu 3 ntawm 3: Txiav txim siab yog Kev Kho Mob Yog Rau Koj
Kauj Ruam 1. Tau txais lub cev
Kev sib deev tsis zoo los ntawm ntau yam: kev xav tsis meej, kev xav, kev mus txog qhovtwg, thiab qhov mob. Qee qhov no tuaj yeem tshwm sim los ntawm teeb meem kev xav, thaum lwm tus tuaj yeem tshwm sim los ntawm lub cev ua rau. Yog tias koj tab tom ntsib teeb meem kev sib deev, koj yuav tsum xub hu rau koj tus kws kho mob kom sau lub cev thiab txiav txim siab tias yog dab tsi tom qab qhov teeb meem. Teeb meem ntawm lub cev yuav xav tau kev kho mob nrog tshuaj lossis lwm txoj hauv kev, tsis yog kho hlwb.
- Cia siab tias yuav muaj lub cev tag nrho nrog koj tus kws kho mob thiab teb cov lus nug txog koj cov tsos mob. Koj tus kws kho mob kuj tseem yuav xaj kom kuaj mob txhawm rau txheeb xyuas qhov teeb meem.
- Cov xwm txheej zoo li ntshav qab zib, kab mob hauv lub plawv, tsis txaus cov tshuaj hormones, siv yeeb siv tshuaj lossis cawv, lossis mob ntev ntawm ob lub raum thiab lub siab tuaj yeem cuam tshuam rau kev noj qab haus huv, piv txwv. Qee cov tshuaj kuj tseem tuaj yeem cuam tshuam nrog kev sib deev, zoo li qee yam tshuaj tiv thaiv kev nyuaj siab.
- Koj tus kws kho mob kuj tseem yuav nug koj txog koj qib kev ntxhov siab, keeb kwm kev sib deev yav dhau los, siv cawv lossis tshuaj, thiab lwm yam los pab txiav txim siab qhov ua rau.
Kauj Ruam 2. Sim tshuaj, yog tias koj muaj teeb meem ntawm lub cev
Qee zaum teeb meem kev sib deev yog qhov tshwm sim ntawm cov teeb meem hauv lub cev thiab tuaj yeem daws nrog tshuaj. Qhov no feem ntau muaj tseeb rau kev ua haujlwm tsis zoo, tab sis rau lwm yam mob ib yam. Koj tus kws kho mob yuav tsum qhia koj tom qab ua lub cev.
- Yog tias qhov teeb meem yog tshuaj hormonal, nug koj tus kws kho mob txog kev txhaj tshuaj, tshuaj noj, lossis tshuaj pleev uas tuaj yeem kho qhov tsis txaus lossis qhov ua tsis tau zoo. Rau cov poj niam qhov no yuav suav nrog kev kho tshuaj estrogen lossis androgen, ob qho no tseem ceeb rau kev ua haujlwm ntawm kev sib deev.
- Rau cov txiv neej, cov tshuaj uas ua rau kom ntshav ntws mus rau qhov chaw mos zoo li Viagra lossis Cialis tuaj yeem kho tus mob erectile kawg. Tebchaws Asmeskas FDA tseem tau pom zoo tam sim no tshuaj Flibanserin, hu ua poj niam Viagra uas tuaj yeem pab txhawb kev libido.
Kauj Ruam 3. Sim nrog cov khoom siv kho tshuab, yog xav tau
Kev kho hlwb yuav tsis tsim nyog rau koj ib yam yog tias koj tuaj yeem kho qhov teeb meem los ntawm kev siv tshuab. Muaj ntau tus pabcuam los pab daws qhov kev ua haujlwm tsis zoo ntawm lub cev. Txiv neej tuaj yeem siv lub twj tso kua mis lossis cog qoob loo los pab nrog kev ua haujlwm tsis taus, piv txwv li, ntawm lwm tus.
- Tham nrog kws kho mob txog cov peev txheej pab tau thiab seb qhov no puas yog ib qho kev xaiv. Tom qab ntawd nws tuaj yeem qhia koj txog cov khoom muaj kev nyab xeeb.
- Koj tuaj yeem pom ntau yam kev pabcuam kev sib deev zoo li lub tshuab nqus tsev twj online. Cov no muaj rau txiv neej thiab poj niam - Eros yog kev pab pom zoo tshwj xeeb rau poj niam, piv txwv li, txawm hais tias nws kim heev.
- Cov poj niam kuj tseem tuaj yeem pom lub tshuab ua kom muaj zog rau kev sib deev, thaum cov neeg uas muaj kev sib zog me me (vaginismus) tuaj yeem sim dilators.
