Cov tsev nyob ntsiag to muab kev koom tes nrog kev nyob nrog cov neeg nyob hauv tsom mus rau kev zam kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj thiab quav cawv. Cov tsev no feem ntau xav kom cov neeg koom nrog nyob huv, thiab them nqi xauj tsev thiab ua haujlwm hauv tsev thiaj li nyob tau. Cov neeg nyob hauv tau muab cov qauv los tswj hwm lawv lub hom phiaj tsis txaus ntseeg thiab tuaj yeem nrhiav kev txhawb nqa hauv zej zog ib leeg. Muaj ntau ntau hom sib txawv ntawm kev ua neej nyob hauv tsev muaj kom haum rau koj lossis koj tus hlub ib tus xav tau. Nrhiav kev xaiv thiab taug kev ncig ntawm cov chaw. Kev nrhiav lub tsev nyob ntsiag to zoo tuaj yeem pab koj lossis tus neeg koj hlub txuas ntxiv mus tom ntej hauv kev rov zoo.
Cov kauj ruam
Ntu 1 ntawm 3: Txheeb Xyuas Koj Txoj Kev Xav Ua Ntej
Kauj Ruam 1. Ceev faj
Txhawm rau nrhiav qhov chaw nyob ntawm lub tsev muaj kev nyab xeeb, koj yuav tsum tau rov zoo los ntawm kev haus cawv lossis quav yeeb quav tshuaj. Yog tias koj tsis muaj kev qaug zog tam sim no, koj yuav tsum xub nrhiav kev kho mob ntawm chaw kho tshuaj lossis dej cawv thiab ua tiav txoj haujlwm tiav. Lub tsev muaj kev nyob ntsiag to tsis yog cov chaw kho mob, lawv yog cov chaw saib xyuas uas pab koj hloov pauv mus rau kev ua neej nyob ywj pheej hauv kev muaj kev nyab xeeb.
Nkag siab tias cov tsev nyob ntsiag to yuav tsis tuav koj lub luag haujlwm zoo li koj lub chaw kho mob tau ua. Yog tias koj tsis muaj lub siab tshiab thiab tab tom tawm tsam kom nyob li ntawd, koj yuav xav tau kev txhawb nqa ntau dua li lub tsev nyob tsis muaj zog tuaj yeem muab tau. Txog qhov zoo tshaj ntawm txoj kev vam meej, koj yuav xav kom muaj qee qhov kev paub rov zoo thiab qee cov tswv yim ua tiav uas koj tuaj yeem siv los pab koj nyob ntsiag to
Kauj Ruam 2. Txiav txim siab seb hom tsev nyob ntsiag to uas koj xav tau
Cov tsev sib txawv tau teeb tsa hauv ntau txoj kev. Hom tsev uas koj xav tau yuav nyob ntawm qhov koj tuaj yeem them taus, hom kev tsim koj xav tau, thiab koj xav tau kev ceev ntiag tug. Lub tsev muaj kev nyob ntsiag to yuav nyob hauv ib leeg-tsev neeg cov tsev nyob, uas tej zaum yuav xav tias muaj kev sib tham ntau dua, lossis hauv ib chav tsev, uas cov neeg tau txais kev nyab xeeb thiab kev ywj pheej ntau dua.
- Qee lub tsev yuav muaj sijhawm pab pawg lossis kho tus kheej. Cov tsev yuav hais kom tuaj koom ntawm 12-kauj ruam txoj haujlwm kev sib tham tsuav yog koj nyob ntawd. Lwm tus yuav tsis muaj lub rooj sib tham xav tau.
- Txiav txim seb hom qauv twg yuav pab tau koj. Nco ntsoov, tsawg dua hnub ntawm kev tsis txaus siab uas koj tau muaj, kev txhawb nqa ntau dua uas koj yuav xav tau.
- Xav txog kev nrhiav lub tsev nrog cov neeg nyob hauv koj tus txiv neej sib deev. Cov tsev nyob ua ke ua rau nws muaj feem ntau tias kev sib raug zoo yuav txhim kho thiab cov neeg nyob hauv yuav tsis pom lawv lub hom phiaj kev tsis txaus siab.
Kauj Ruam 3. Txiav txim siab koj cov peev nyiaj
Xam tawm yam koj tuaj yeem them taus hauv nqi xauj tsev thiab lwm yam nqi. Thaum lub sijhawm nyob ntev sib txawv, qhov nyob nruab nrab ntawm lub tsev muaj kev nyab xeeb nyob nruab nrab yog tsib thiab yim lub hlis.
- Cov neeg nyob hauv ntau lub tsev muaj kev nyob ntsiag to tau tso cai nyob hauv tsev ntev li lawv xav tau, tsuav yog lawv nyob twj ywm thiab ua raws txoj cai hauv tsev. Cov neeg nyob hauv nroog tuaj yeem txiav txim siab tawm mus thaum lawv npaj rau kev ywj pheej ntau dua.
- Nco ntsoov tias koj npaj yuav tsawg kawg peb lub hlis. Kev nyob ntev txhais tau hais tias muaj feem yuav rov huam tuaj tsawg dua.
Ntu 2 ntawm 3: Tshawb Fawb Qhov Chaw
Kauj Ruam 1. Nrhiav lub tsev nyob ntsiag to hauv qhov chaw zoo
Yog tias koj twb muaj txoj haujlwm lawm, nrhiav qhov chaw uas yooj yim rau koj txoj haujlwm. Yog tias koj tsis muaj haujlwm tam sim no, koj yuav xav txiav txim siab lub tsev nyob ze ntawm ntau txoj hauv kev ua haujlwm. Xav txog tias koj yuav mus txog thiab los ntawm kev ua haujlwm thiab lwm yam kev cog lus li cas - lub tsev puas siv tau los ntawm kev thauj mus los rau pej xeem, lossis koj puas xav tau tsheb?
Xav txog yam xwm txheej ib puag ncig uas koj xav nyob, thiab ib puag ncig twg yuav pab koj tswj hwm koj txoj kev nyob zoo. Koj puas nyiam ua haujlwm hauv nroog lossis nyob ntsiag to ntawm ib puag ncig hauv nroog lossis nyob deb nroog?
Kauj Ruam 2. Tau txais kev pom zoo
Yog tias koj ua tiav kev kho mob ntawm lub tsev kho mob, nug koj tus thawj tswj xyuas rooj plaub yog tias lawv pom zoo ob peb lub tsev nyob huv si. Saib seb koj tus neeg saib xyuas rooj plaub puas tuaj yeem pab npaj ncig xyuas rau koj.
- Yuav tsum paub tias qhov zoo ntawm lub tsev nyob ntsiag to sib txawv thiab lawv cov kev cai yog qhov pom tseeb. Ntau lub xeev tsis xav kom lawv tau ntawv tso cai, vim tias lawv tau txiav txim siab koom tes nrog kev npaj ua neej nyob.
- Saib online rau cov tsev uas tsis yog qhov uas tau hais qhia los ntawm lub chaw khomob. Cov chaw kho mob thiab tuam txhab pov hwm yuav tau txais cov nqi xa tawm tsis raug los ntawm qee qhov chaw nyob hloov chaw, yog li xyuas kom koj nthuav dav koj qhov kev tshawb fawb dhau qhov chaw pom zoo los ntawm koj lub chaw haujlwm.
- Koj kuj tseem tuaj yeem thov cov lus pom zoo los ntawm chav saib xyuas kev noj qab haus huv hauv zej zog lossis chaw haujlwm saib xyuas kev puas siab puas ntsws.
- Nqaim koj daim ntawv teev npe rau qee qhov kev xaiv saum toj kawg nkaus rau ncig xyuas. Koj yuav xav pib txiav txim siab ntawm qhov chaw, hom kev nyob, tus nqi, lossis lwm yam tseem ceeb rau koj. Sim ncig xyuas tsawg kawg peb lub tsev kom pom cov kev hloov pauv ntawm cov zej zog nyob ntsiag to.
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Tiffany Douglass, MA
Founder, Wellness Retreat Recovery Center Tiffany Douglass is the Founder of Wellness Retreat Recovery Center, a JCAHO (Joint Commission on Accreditation of Healthcare Organizations) accredited drug and alcohol treatment program based in San Jose, California. She is also the Executive Director for Midland Tennessee at JourneyPure. She has over ten years of experience in substance abuse treatment and was appointed a Global Goodwill Ambassador in 2019 for her efforts in residential addiction treatment. Tiffany earned a BA in Psychology from Emory University in 2004 and an MA in Psychology with an emphasis on Organization Behavior and Program Evaluation from Claremont Graduate University in 2006.
Tiffany Douglass, MA
Founder, Wellness Retreat Recovery Center
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Kauj Ruam 3. Tau txais kev xav
Koom nrog 12-theem kev sib tham nyob ze cov tsev koj tab tom saib thiab nug cov koom nrog seb lawv paub dab tsi txog cov chaw ntawd. Tshawb nrhiav seb qhov chaw puas muaj lub koob npe nrov - zoo lossis tsis zoo - los ntawm cov neeg uas muaj kev paub tshaj plaws txog kev tawm tsam nrog kev mob siab rau.
- Koj tuaj yeem nug cov lus nug txog kev nyab xeeb hauv tsev, kev coj ncaj ncees ntawm cov neeg ua haujlwm thiab cov neeg nyob hauv, thaj chaw nyob ib puag ncig lub tsev zoo li cas, lossis lwm yam kev txhawj xeeb uas koj yuav muaj.
- Koj tuaj yeem hais tias, "Kuv yuav mus ncig lub tsev no lub lim tiam tom ntej. Koj puas paub dab tsi txog nws? Nws puas paub tias yog txoj haujlwm zoo thiab nyob qhov twg?"
- Yog tias lub tsev tsis muaj tsev nyob muaj lub npe tsis zoo hauv zej zog 12-kauj ruam, nws yog qhov zoo tshaj uas koj saib lwm lub tsev uas muaj lub siab dawb paug.
Ntu 3 ntawm 3: Ncig Saib Lub Tsev Muaj Kev Nyuaj Siab
Kauj Ruam 1. Teem sijhawm ncig xyuas
Hu xov tooj rau lub tsev uas muaj lub siab dawb huv thiab thov mus ncig thiab sib tham. Nqa cov npe cov lus nug uas koj xav nug. Ntsib nrog cov neeg ua haujlwm thiab tau txais cov ntawv theej ntawm txhua cov ntaub ntawv tsim nyog rau koj siv.
- Koj tuaj yeem hu thiab hais tias, "Kuv nyuam qhuav tawm ntawm qhov chaw kho mob rau kev quav dej quav cawv, thiab kuv vam tias yuav teem sijhawm mus ntsib koj lub chaw kho mob. Puas muaj sijhawm nyob rau lub lim tiam no kuv tuaj yeem tuaj?"
- Ua kom ntseeg tau tias lub tsev muaj kev nyab xeeb tam sim no muaj txaj. Yog tsis yog, koj tuaj yeem nug, "Koj puas muaj lub tswv yim txog thaum lub txaj qhib? Puas muaj cov npe tos uas kuv tuaj yeem nkag tau yog tias kuv txaus siab?"
Kauj Ruam 2. Ntsib nrog cov neeg nyob hauv
Tham nrog qee tus neeg nyob hauv txog lawv cov kev paub dhau los hauv lub tsev nyob ntsiag to. Nrhiav seb lawv ua haujlwm nyob qhov twg, lawv mus koom rooj sib tham, thiab yam lawv nyiam thiab tsis nyiam txog kev nyob hauv tsev.
Nkag siab tias yog tias muaj ib tus neeg ua haujlwm ntawm kev nyob ntsiag to nyob ib puag ncig cov neeg nyob hauv ib puag ncig yuav tsis xav tias lawv muaj peev xwm hais lus ywj pheej. Koj tuaj yeem nug tus neeg ua haujlwm, "Nws puas zoo yog tias kuv tham nrog tus neeg no ib leeg ob peb feeb? Kuv xav kom tau txais kev pom ncaj ncees. " Ceev faj yog tias tus neeg ua haujlwm tsis kam nkag mus rau tus neeg nyob hauv
Kauj Ruam 3. Tshawb xyuas thaj chaw
Thaum koj tab tom ncig xyuas, tshuaj xyuas qhov chaw. Nws puas huv thiab kho tau zoo? Puas yog thaj chaw huv si thiab caw? Puas yog chav ua noj thiab chav dej zoo li tsis huv?
- Nug kom pom tus neeg nyob hauv chav. Tshawb nrhiav txog kev huv thiab saib xyuas kev cia siab ntawm cov neeg nyob ib puag ncig.
- Nug txog lub sijhawm tu tu. Yog tias cov neeg nyob hauv lub luag haujlwm ntxuav tu, nug seb yuav txiav txim siab ua haujlwm li cas thiab faib tawm ntawm cov neeg nyob hauv.
Kauj Ruam 4. Tshawb nrhiav seb cov neeg nyob hauv nroog xav tau dab tsi
Nug txog kev cai hauv tsev thiab kev cia siab rau cov neeg nyob hauv. Tej zaum koj yuav xav nug txog kev noj mov, kev txwv sijhawm, lossis kev coj tus yam ntxwv tso cai.
- Piv txwv, yog tias koj yog neeg haus luam yeeb, nrhiav seb koj puas raug tso cai haus luam yeeb hauv tsev, hauv thaj chaw tshwj xeeb sab nraum lub tsev, lossis yog tias tsis pub haus luam yeeb nyob txhua qhov chaw ntawm lub tsev.
- Nug seb lub tsev puas muaj kev txwv sij hawm lossis yog tias cov qhua tuaj yeem nyob tau hmo ntuj.
- Tshawb nrhiav txog kev noj mov. Cov neeg nyob hauv puas noj ua ke, lossis noj zaub mov ntawm koj tus kheej? Cov neeg nyob hauv yuav cais lawv cov zaub mov li cas?
Kauj Ruam 5. Muaj kev xam phaj
Yog tias koj nyiam qhov koj pom thiab xav tias lub tsev yuav haum rau koj, thov kom xam phaj los ntawm cov neeg ua haujlwm lossis cov neeg nyob hauv. Cia siab tias koj yuav raug tshuaj yeeb raws li ib feem ntawm koj qhov kev xam phaj thiab raws li qhov koj nyob hauv tsev.
- Thaum koj tuaj yeem xam phaj nrog cov neeg ua haujlwm, ntawm qee lub tsev muaj kev nyob zoo li lub tsev Oxford, koj yuav raug xam phaj los ntawm cov neeg nyob hauv tsev. Lub Tsev Oxford tau txais kev txhawb nqa los ntawm lub koom haum lub kaus, tab sis muaj kev ywj pheej los ntawm txhua tus neeg hauv tsev. Cov cai ntawm txhua lub tsev tau teeb tsa ntawm nws tus kheej.
- Nug thaum twg koj yuav raug ceeb toom txog kev txiav txim siab txog koj qhov kev lees txais. Koj tuaj yeem hais tias, "Thaum twg kuv tuaj yeem nrog koj tham txog qhov kev xam phaj no?"
