Kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj tuaj yeem ua teeb meem hauv koj lub neej, koj tus khub lub neej, thiab koj kev sib raug zoo. Yog tias koj tab tom daws lossis rov qab los ntawm kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj, koj yuav tsum qhia rau koj tus khub. Kev ua siab ncaj tuaj yeem pab tshem tawm ntawm koj thiab vam tias yuav muab cov khoom txhawb nqa rau koj. Nws kuj tseem yuav ua tej yam yooj yim dua thiab zoo dua hauv koj txoj kev sib raug zoo. Txawm hais tias qhia koj tus khub yog qhov nyuaj siv zog, koj tuaj yeem kawm paub yuav qhia lawv li cas thiaj li tuaj yeem qhib kev sib raug zoo dua.
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Txoj Kev 1 ntawm 3: Txiav Txim Siab Qhia Koj Tus Kheej
Kauj Ruam 1. Xav txog koj qhov kev txhawb siab
Xav txog vim li cas koj thiaj xav qhia rau koj tus khub txog koj kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj. Ib qho laj thawj yuav yog vim koj xav tau kev txhawb nqa los pab koj kom rov zoo. Rov qab los ntawm kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj yog txoj kev nyuaj. Muaj koj tus khub muab kev txhawb nqa tuaj yeem ua tej yam yooj yim rau koj.
Koj puas xav tau koj tus khub kev pab kom nyob ntsiag to? Puas yog koj txoj kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj cuam tshuam rau koj kev noj qab haus huv, nyiaj txiag, lossis kev nyob zoo?
Kauj Ruam 2. Paub tias kev sib raug zoo yuav hloov pauv
Kawm paub tias koj muaj kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj yuav nyuaj rau koj tus khub hnov. Nws yuav hloov txoj kev uas koj tus khub pom koj. Txawm hais tias nws yuav tsis tas yuav yog qhov tsis zoo, tam sim no lawv yuav paub qhov tseem ceeb ntawm koj. Qhov no txhais tau tias koj txoj kev sib raug zoo yuav hloov pauv vim qhov kev paub tshiab no.
- Koj tus khub yuav hnov mob lossis tsis ntseeg koj thaum xub thawj. Tej zaum lawv yuav tsum tau ua haujlwm dhau los ntawm kev xav tsis zoo thaum lawv los nrog koj li xwm txheej.
- Kev hloov pauv kev sib raug zoo tsis tas yuav yog qhov tsis zoo. Koj thiab koj tus khub tuaj yeem ua kom ze dua li ib txwm muaj vim qhov kev lees paub no.
Kauj Ruam 3. Txiav txim siab yog tias koj tus khub yuav txhawb nqa
Thaum koj npaj qhia koj tus khub txog koj kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj, koj yuav tsum xub ua siab ncaj rau koj tus kheej. Koj tus khub puas yuav txhawb nqa? Qhov no tsis txhais tau tias lawv yuav txhawb nqa koj tus cwj pwm yeeb tshuaj, tab sis txhawb koj txoj kev rov zoo thiab kho koj. Qhov no tseem ceeb heev thaum koj mus tom ntej nrog koj lub neej thiab koj kev sib raug zoo.
Nug koj tus kheej yog tias koj xav tias koj tus khub yuav tuaj yeem daws qhov tseeb tias koj muaj kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj. Lawv puas yuav txiav txim rau koj thiab hloov lawv cov kev xav txog koj? Lawv puas yuav txhawb nqa koj thaum koj txuas ntxiv los ntawm kev rov zoo?
Kauj Ruam 4. Txiav txim seb koj xav faib ntau npaum li cas
Tej zaum yuav muaj cov ntaub ntawv ntau ntxiv nrog rau koj qhov kev lees paub tias koj yog tus neeg quav yeeb quav tshuaj. Tej zaum koj yuav tsis xav qhia koj tus khub txhua yam ib zaug. Qhov no tuaj yeem cuam tshuam rau koj ob leeg. Hloov chaw, txiav txim siab dab tsi yuav tsum tau hais qhia thaum pib qhia rau koj tus khub paub txog koj qhov xwm txheej thiab koj rov zoo li cas.
Tej zaum koj yuav xav muab cov ntsiab lus yooj yim, zoo li koj tau siv tshuaj ntev npaum li cas thiab yam tshuaj twg uas koj siv. Tej zaum koj yuav xav khaws cov ntsiab lus tshwj xeeb ntxiv rau tom qab, thaum koj tau txav mus rau tom ntej thiab ua kom muaj kev ntseeg siab ntawm ob ntawm koj
Kauj Ruam 5. Npaj rau txhua qhov kev tawm tsam
Txawm hais tias koj hlub koj tus khub thiab xav nyob ze txaus rau lawv los qhia koj kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj, uas tsis tau lees tias muaj kev tawm tsam zoo. Txawm hais tias koj tus khub hlub koj heev, lawv tseem yuav muaj qhov tsis zoo. Npaj rau txhua qhov kev tawm tsam txij li cov xov xwm no tuaj yeem yog kev xav thiab nyuaj rau hnov txog ib tus neeg uas lawv hlub.
- Ua siab ncaj rau koj tus khub txoj kev xav thiab kev xav. Cov xov xwm no cuam tshuam rau lawv, ib yam.
- Koj tus khub yuav tsis nkag siab lossis xav pab koj thaum xub thawj. Nyob zoo thiab ua siab ntev nrog koj tus khub thaum koj txuas ntxiv pab lawv siv cov xov xwm no.
Txoj Kev 2 ntawm 3: Qhia Koj Tus Kheej Txog Koj Cov Tshuaj Yeeb Tshuaj
Kauj Ruam 1. Sau qhov koj xav hais
Qhia koj tus khub txog koj kev quav tshuaj yuav ntau dua li yuav yog kev sib tham nyuaj. Txhawm rau pab npaj koj rau kev sib tham no, npaj qhov koj xav hais ua ntej ua ntej. Sau cov lus, cov ntsiab lus, lossis kab lus uas koj xav kom paub tseeb tias koj hais. Qhov no tuaj yeem pab koj nyob rau lub sijhawm uas koj tshee hnyo thiab tej zaum yuav tsis xav meej.
- Sim sau tawm lus. Koj tsis tas yuav nyeem nws, tab sis xav txog yam koj xav hais hauv nws tag nrho tuaj yeem pab koj thaum koj qhia koj tus khub.
- Ua ib daim ntawv teev cov ntsiab lus nrog cov ncauj lus lossis cov ntsiab lus koj xav ua kom koj tuaj yeem paub tseeb tias koj npog txhua yam thaum koj tham.
Kauj Ruam 2. Xaiv lub sijhawm thiab qhov chaw tsim nyog
Txhawm rau pab kom yooj yim dua thaum koj qhia koj tus khub txog koj kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj, koj yuav tsum xaiv lub sijhawm thiab qhov chaw kom tsim nyog. Qhov no txhais tau tias koj yuav tsum nyob hauv qhov chaw tshwj xeeb uas koj yuav tsis raug cuam tshuam. Koj tseem yuav tsum ua nws nyob rau lub sijhawm thaum koj ob leeg muaj sijhawm los tham txog qhov xwm txheej, txawm tias yuav siv sijhawm ntau teev.
Piv txwv li, tsis txhob qhia koj tus khub thaum koj tsuas muaj ob peb feeb, thaum lawv cuam tshuam, lossis thaum lawv muaj lwm txoj kev koom tes
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Tiffany Douglass, MA
Founder, Wellness Retreat Recovery Center Tiffany Douglass is the Founder of Wellness Retreat Recovery Center, a JCAHO (Joint Commission on Accreditation of Healthcare Organizations) accredited drug and alcohol treatment program based in San Jose, California. She is also the Executive Director for Midland Tennessee at JourneyPure. She has over ten years of experience in substance abuse treatment and was appointed a Global Goodwill Ambassador in 2019 for her efforts in residential addiction treatment. Tiffany earned a BA in Psychology from Emory University in 2004 and an MA in Psychology with an emphasis on Organization Behavior and Program Evaluation from Claremont Graduate University in 2006.
Tiffany Douglass, MA
Founder, Wellness Retreat Recovery Center
Our Expert Agrees:
If you need to tell your partner about your substance abuse addiction, set up a time and place where you can have their full attention. You could even seek the help of a couples' therapist to help open the dialogue and make sure the conversation is productive for both parties.
Kauj Ruam 3. Ua siab ncaj txog koj kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj
Thaum koj tab tom qhia koj tus khub, qhib nrog lawv txog yam koj tab tom cuam tshuam nrog. Qhov no tuaj yeem txhais tau tias koj qhia rau lawv txog cov tshuaj koj tau noj, txoj hauv kev nws tau cuam tshuam tsis zoo rau koj lub neej, thiab ntsuas kev rov zoo li cas uas koj tau ua. Tsis txhob txaj muag ntawm qhov tseeb lossis sim ua tej yam zoo dua li lawv yog. Koj tab tom qhia koj qhov xwm txheej kom nkag siab zoo dua los ntawm koj tus khub, yog li ua siab ncaj.
Tej zaum koj yuav xav qhia rau koj tus khub, "Kuv tau rov zoo los ntawm kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj. Qhov no tau cuam tshuam rau kuv lub neej ntau txoj hauv kev. Kuv yuav tsum tau ceev faj hauv qee qhov xwm txheej vim tias lawv yuav ua rau kuv xav siv dua."
Kauj Ruam 4. Mloog koj tus khub
Qhov kev sib tham no yuav tsis yog ib leeg. Nws yuav tsis yog koj tham xwb. Koj tus khub yuav tsum muaj sijhawm los tham nrog. Tej zaum lawv yuav muaj lus nug txog koj kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj thiab rov zoo, kev txhawj xeeb txog qhov ntawd txhais tau tias yog rau koj thiab koj kev sib raug zoo, lossis xav paub meej txog yam. Ua tib zoo mloog qhov koj tus khub hais nrog qhib siab.
Ua txhua yam ntawm koj tus khub kev ntshai, kev txhawj xeeb, thiab cov lus nug tiag. Sim nkag siab qhov twg lawv cov lus nug thiab kev txhawj xeeb tuaj ntawm
Kauj Ruam 5. Nthuav koj cov lus
Koj yuav muaj daim ntawv teev cov xwm txheej, qhov chaw, lossis cov neeg uas koj nqa nrog koj. Cov teeb meem no tuaj yeem tso koj rau hauv txoj haujlwm uas koj xav rov siv dua. Qhia rau koj tus khub tias koj ua dab tsi yog li lawv tuaj yeem paub txog dab tsi uas yuav ua rau rov huam tuaj thiab pab koj zam qhov no. Qhia rau koj tus khub tias koj ua dab tsi txhawm rau zam koj qhov tshwm sim thiab tswj hwm lawv thaum koj nkag mus rau qhov xwm txheej txaus ntshai.
- Qhia rau koj tus khub tias vim li cas cov teeb meem no cuam tshuam rau koj. Koj tus khub yuav nkag siab ntau ntxiv txog koj kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj thiab koj yog tias lawv tuaj yeem pom koj li cas rau cov khoom.
- Hais rau koj tus khub, "Kuv paub tias koj nyiam mus koom nrog pawg thiab tuav, tab sis qhov xwm txheej ntawd ua rau kuv. Kuv pom tias kuv xav siv thaum kuv nyob hauv ib puag ncig ntawd. Peb puas tuaj yeem nrhiav lwm yam los ua?"
Kauj Ruam 6. Thov txim rau koj tus khub
Tej zaum koj yuav xav thov zam txim rau koj tus khub rau qhov raug mob lossis ua rau koj raug mob. Tej zaum koj yuav tau ua phem rau koj tus khub ntawm qee lub sijhawm vim koj quav yeeb quav tshuaj. Qhia rau koj tus khub tias koj paub tias koj cov kev ua yuav ua rau lawv mob, lossis nug lawv tias koj tau ua phem rau lawv li cas. Thov txim rau koj tus cwj pwm thiab ib qho kev ntseeg uas koj tau ua txhaum.
- Fim txhua yam tsis zoo uas koj yuav tau ua vim yog koj quav yeeb quav tshuaj. Mus tom ntej thiab ntsib qhov mob thiab kev xav tsis zoo tuaj yeem pab koj ob leeg mus thiab kho tau.
- Koj tuaj yeem hais tias, "Kuv thov txim uas kuv quav yeeb quav tshuaj ua rau koj mob. Kuv yuav sim tsis ua mob rau koj ntxiv lawm yav tom ntej."
Txoj Kev 3 ntawm 3: Nrhiav Kev Txhawb Nqa
Kauj Ruam 1. Qhia koj li phiaj xwm kev kho mob
Qhia rau koj tus khub tias koj tab tom kho koj li cas rau kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj. Cia koj tus khub ua ib feem ntawm koj txoj kev rov zoo yog qhov tseem ceeb heev. Qhov no tsis tsuas yog qhia rau koj tus khub paub tias koj tab tom ua qhov zoo los kho, tab sis cia lawv hnov zoo li lawv yog ib feem ntawm koj txoj kev rov zoo. Nws pab lawv muaj peev xwm txhawb nqa koj thaum koj xav tau lawv.
- Koj txoj kev kho yuav suav nrog kev kho lossis kho tshuaj. Tej zaum koj kuj tseem muaj kev kho ua ke, hloov kev ua neej nyob, thiab pab pawg uas koj siv los pab koj kom rov zoo thiab tswj hwm koj txoj kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj.
- Hais tias, "Kuv tau cog lus rau kuv tus kheej kom rov zoo los ntawm kuv txoj kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj. Cov no yog cov kauj ruam uas kuv tab tom ua kom rov zoo."
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Tiffany Douglass, MA
Founder, Wellness Retreat Recovery Center Tiffany Douglass is the Founder of Wellness Retreat Recovery Center, a JCAHO (Joint Commission on Accreditation of Healthcare Organizations) accredited drug and alcohol treatment program based in San Jose, California. She is also the Executive Director for Midland Tennessee at JourneyPure. She has over ten years of experience in substance abuse treatment and was appointed a Global Goodwill Ambassador in 2019 for her efforts in residential addiction treatment. Tiffany earned a BA in Psychology from Emory University in 2004 and an MA in Psychology with an emphasis on Organization Behavior and Program Evaluation from Claremont Graduate University in 2006.
Tiffany Douglass, MA
Founder, Wellness Retreat Recovery Center
Our Expert Agrees:
When you talk to your partner about an addiction, they'll feel a lot more at ease if you also have a plan to address that addiction. Have the details prepared, like whether you'll go to AA, therapy, or rehab, and whether insurance will cover your treatment. You might also suggest a family counseling component to help you learn to have a healthy, sober relationship.
Kauj Ruam 2. Qhia kev kho niam txiv
Koj tus khub yuav tsis txhawb lossis nyiam nrog lub tswv yim thaum xub thawj. Txawm hais tias koj tus khub txhawb nqa, koj ob leeg tseem yuav xav tau qee qhov kev txhawb nqa, kho, thiab kho kom haum xeeb. Tej zaum koj yuav xav qhia tias koj mus rau kev kho niam txiv kom ua haujlwm ntawm koj txoj kev sib raug zoo. Qhov no tuaj yeem pab koj ntsib thiab daws cov teeb meem uas koj tseem muaj.
- Kev kho ob niam txiv yuav xav tau yog tias koj tau sim kho qee yam ntawm koj tus kheej tab sis tsis muaj hmoo ntau. Koj tuaj yeem tau txais txiaj ntsig los ntawm tus kws tshaj lij.
- Tawm tswv yim tias koj mus rau kev kho niam txiv tuaj yeem pab ua pov thawj tias koj mob siab rau koj kev sib raug zoo thiab koj tus khub.
- Nco ntsoov tias koj thiab koj tus khub ob leeg nrhiav kev kho tus kheej ib yam. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb rau koj ob leeg kom muaj chaw nyab xeeb los tham txog koj cov kev xav thiab kev xav txog koj li txheej txheem rov qab los.
Kauj Ruam 3. Pab koj tus khub nrhiav pab pawg
Koj tus khub yuav xav tau kev txhawb nqa ib yam li koj. Tej zaum lawv yuav tsum tau kawm paub yuav txhawb nqa cov neeg quav yeeb quav tshuaj rov qab los lossis txoj hauv kev los daws teeb meem yog tias muaj kev rov huam tuaj. Koj tus khub tseem tuaj yeem txuas nrog lwm tus uas muaj kev koom tes nrog kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj thiab kawm paub tias lawv daws thiab txhawb nqa lawv tus khub li cas. Ntau pab pawg tshwj xeeb tau npaj tshwj xeeb rau cov tsev neeg ntawm cov uas muaj kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj.
- Pab pawg txhawb nqa kuj tseem tuaj yeem pab koj tus khub kawm paub ntau ntxiv txog kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj thiab lawv yuav pab koj daws li cas.
- Pab pawg txhawb nqa kuj tseem tuaj yeem pab lawv kawm paub saib xyuas lawv tus kheej thiab lawv cov kev xav tau li cas.
- Qee lub sijhawm hauv koj qhov kev rov zoo, koj kuj tseem xav nthuav koj txoj kev koom nrog hauv pab pawg txhawb nqa los ua tus txhawb nqa. Kev tawm tswv yim txog cov kev xav tau ntawm cov neeg cuam tshuam nrog kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj tuaj yeem pab koj kom muaj zog thiab txuas ntxiv hauv kev rov zoo.
