Yog tias koj pom tus txiv leej tub ntxim hlub hauv tsev kawm ntawv lossis thaum koj tawm mus thiab txog, nws yuav hnov lub paj me ntsis txhawm rau txav mus rau nws. Koj tsis nyob ib leeg -tus neeg zoo li qhov ntawd thaum lawv xav ntsib lwm tus neeg tshiab! Ua tsaug, muaj qee qhov lus qhia thiab lus qhia koj tuaj yeem siv los txhawb koj txoj kev ntseeg siab thiab xam tawm qee yam los hais rau tus txiv leej tub ntxim hlub.
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Txoj Kev 1 ntawm 12: Npaj ob peb qhov kev sib tham pib ua ntej
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Kauj Ruam 1. Thaum koj ntxhov siab, koj lub siab yuav ploj mus
Siv ob peb feeb los xav txog qhov koj tuaj yeem hais rau tus txiv neej uas koj nyiam yog li koj muaj qee qhov kev xaiv. Koj tsis tas yuav sau ib tsab ntawv tag nrho, tab sis sau cov lus hais txog yam yuav hais yuav pab tau. Sim tej yam xws li:
- Nug txog nws hnub so
- Saib seb nws puas ua homework
- Tham txog chav kawm uas koj nyob ua ke
- Muab kev qhuas rau nws
Txoj Kev 2 ntawm 12: Ua kom ntseeg siab, txawm tias koj tsis yog
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Kauj Ruam 1. Faking nws kom txog thaum koj ua kom nws ua haujlwm tiag tiag
Raws li koj xav txog kev tham nrog tus txiv leej tub uas koj nyiam, xav txog qhov sib tham ntws zoo thiab nug cov lus nug kom ntseeg tau. Sim tsis txhob xav txog koj qhov kev sib tham, thiab nco ntsoov tias nws zoo li ua tau txawv txawv me ntsis thaum koj ntsib thawj tus neeg.
Hla koj txhais caj npab thiab sawv ntsug ncaj kom pom kev ntseeg siab
Txoj Kev 3 ntawm 12: Ua qhov muag thiab luag ntxhi rau nws
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Kauj Ruam 1. Koj lub cev lus tuaj yeem qhia nws paub tias koj nyiam
Saib tus txiv neej txoj kev coj thiab muab nws luag me me thaum koj ob lub qhov muag ntsib. Tig koj lub cev rau nws kom nws tuaj yeem qhia koj tias koj xav tham.
Yog tias nws pom koj luag ntxhi rau nws, nws yuav txawm tuaj tham nrog koj
Txoj Kev 4 ntawm 12: Ua pa tob tob kom nqig
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Kauj Ruam 1. Yog tias koj muaj kev ntxhov siab, nres rau ib pliag los npaj koj tus kheej
Ua pa tob tob hauv thiab tso nws maj mam ua ntej koj tig mus tham nrog tus txiv leej tub. Siv sijhawm me ntsis rau koj tus kheej tuaj yeem pab ua kom koj lub suab ruaj khov thiab txhawb koj tus kheej kev hwm.
Qhov nyuaj tshaj plaws ntawm kev tham nrog ib tus neeg tshiab tsuas yog ua
Txoj Kev 5 ntawm 12: Qhia koj tus kheej kom pib sib tham
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Kauj Ruam 1. Nov yog txoj hauv kev yooj yim tshaj plaws rau tus txiv neej, txawm tias koj txaj muag
Tsuas yog taug kev hla thiab qhia nws koj lub npe, tom qab ntawv nug nws. Yog tias koj ob leeg twb paub ib leeg (tab sis tsis zoo heev), koj tuaj yeem nco nws ntawm koj lub npe xwb. Hais ib yam li:
- "Hav, kuv yog Johnathan. Zoo siab tau ntsib koj.”
- "Hav, kuv yog Emily. Kuv xav tias peb muaj chav kawm lus Askiv ua ke."
- "Dab tsi tshwm sim, kuv lub npe Stephanie. Koj yog dab tsi?”
Txoj Kev 6 ntawm 12: Qhib kev sib tham nrog kev soj ntsuam
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Kauj Ruam 1. Tawm tswv yim txog ib yam dab tsi nyob ib puag ncig koj kom nws zoo li qub
Nco tseg ntawm koj ib puag ncig thiab xaiv ib yam los tham txog: Puas yog lub khw kas fes tshiab uas koj tab tom ua mov ci qab? Lub tsev qiv ntawv puas muaj daim ntawv theej tshiab ntawm qhov koj nyiam? Hais ib yam li:
- “Huag, cov bagels no zoo heev. Koj puas tau sim lawv dua?”
- "Tus txiv neej, Kuv tsis paub phau ntawv no tseem tsis tau tawm! Koj puas tau nyeem nws?”
Txoj Kev 7 ntawm 12: Ua tsaug rau nws qhia rau nws paub tias koj nyiam
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Kauj Ruam 1. Ua tus coj nrog kev qhuas yog ib txoj hauv kev zoo kom nws nyiam
Taug kev thiab qhia nws tias koj nyiam nws lub tsho, khau, lossis hnab ev khoom. Tej zaum nws yuav zoo siab uas koj tau hais qee yam, thiab kev sib tham tuaj yeem ntws los ntawm qhov ntawd. Hais ib yam li:
- “Huag, tus pin txias. Koj tau txais nws nyob qhov twg?”
- "Kuv nyiam koj nkawm khau heev. Puas yog lawv tshiab?”
- "Cov xov tooj txias, Kuv nyiam xim ntawd."
Txoj Kev 8 ntawm 12: Nug nws cov lus nug qhib
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Kauj Ruam 1. Qhib cov lus nug siv sijhawm thiab dag zog ntau dua los teb
Sim xaiv cov lus nug uas tsis muaj "yog" lossis "tsis tau" lo lus teb kom nws nthuav dav qhov nws tau hais thiab tham ob peb feeb. Nws tseem yuav nug koj qee cov lus nug, ib yam nkaus! Sim cov lus nug xws li:
- "Koj nyiam tshaj plaws ua dab tsi nyob ib puag ncig ntawm no?"
- "Koj puas tau nyob hauv thaj tsam ntev?"
- "Koj nyiam chav kawm dab tsi?"
Txoj Kev 9 ntawm 12: Tham txog koj li kev nyiam
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Kauj Ruam 1. Thaum koj kawm paub ntau ntxiv txog nws, nrhiav tej yam uas koj tuaj yeem cuam tshuam nrog
Nws yooj yim heev txuas nrog ib tus neeg thaum koj muaj cov khoom sib xws. Tej zaum koj ob leeg mus rau tib lub tsev kawm ntawv, lossis loj hlob hauv tib lub nroog, lossis nyuam qhuav txav mus rau thaj chaw ntawd. Hais tej yam xws li:
- "Tsis muaj txoj kev, kuv nyuam qhuav txav ntawm no ib yam nkaus! Koj tuaj qhov twg tuaj?”
- "Kuv yeej nyiam Game of Thrones. Koj puas npau taws txog qhov kawg, ib yam?"
- "Kuv muaj ib tug dev thiab! Nws lub npe yog Ntxhais fuabtais."
Txoj Kev 10 ntawm 12: Qhia kom kawm ua ke
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Kauj Ruam 1. Yog tias koj mus rau tib lub tsev kawm ntawv, qhov no yog txoj hauv kev yooj yim rau kev tawm mus
Hais kom nws kawm nrog koj rau qhov kev xeem loj lossis pab koj daws teeb meem hauv tsev. Yog tias nws txaus siab, nws yuav zaum dhia ntawm lub sijhawm los ntsib koj dua.
Kev kawm ua ke kuj tseem yog txoj hauv kev qis kom paub nws ntau dua. Txij li nws tsis yog hnub uas raug, tsis muaj kev nyuaj siab rau koj ib leeg
Txoj Kev 11 ntawm 12: Hloov tus lej kom nyob sib tham
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Kauj Ruam 1. Yog tias koj nyiam tus txiv neej no, tej zaum koj xav txuas ntxiv kev sib tham
Raws li nws tau xaus, thov muab nws tus lej rau koj kom koj cov neeg tuaj yeem sib txuas tau. Nws yog txoj hauv kev qis kom qhia nws paub tias koj txaus siab, thiab koj tuaj yeem sau ntawv rau nws tom qab. Hais ib yam li:
- "Kuv yuav tsum mus rau chav kawm, tab sis kuv nyiam tham tom qab. Kuv puas tuaj yeem muab kuv tus lej rau koj?"
- "Qhov kev taug kev uas koj tau tham txog lub suab lom zem heev. Koj puas xav tau cov ntsiab lus rau kuv?"
Txoj Kev 12 ntawm 12: Xyaum ua kom lwm tus paub
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Kauj Ruam 1. Qhov ntau koj xyaum tham nrog tib neeg, nws yuav yooj yim dua
Tham nrog cov neeg hauv kab ntawm lub khw muag khoom noj, koj cov phooj ywg hauv tsev kawm ntawv, lossis cov neeg koj nyob ze ntawm lub npav. Qhov ntau koj xyaum koj li kev txawj tham nrog lwm tus, nws yuav yooj yim dua rau tus txiv neej uas koj nyiam! TSWV YIM TSHUAJ
eddy baller
dating coach eddy baller is a dating coach based in vancouver, british columbia, canada. coaching since 2011, eddy specializes in confidence building, advanced social skills and relationships. he runs his own dating consulting and coaching service named conquer and win, the only bbb accredited dating coaching business in vancouver. conquer and win helps men worldwide have the love lives they deserve. his work has been featured in the art of manliness, lifehack, and pof among others.
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