Ntau tus kws kho mob tau nyiam rau lub tswv yim ntawm kev pib lawv tus kheej kev coj ua kev xav, tab sis txaus ntshai los ntawm cov kauj ruam xav tau los tsim kev lag luam. Qhov no tuaj yeem yog qhov xwm txheej tshwj xeeb rau cov uas tsis muaj kev cob qhia hauv kev lag luam lossis kev lag luam. Tab sis, nrog qee qhov ua haujlwm nyuaj thiab mob siab rau, koj tuaj yeem ua tiav hauv kev pib xyaum ua ntawm koj tus kheej.
Cov kauj ruam
Ntu 1 ntawm 3: Khwv Tau Koj Cov Ntawv Pov Thawj
Kauj Ruam 1. Txiav txim siab hom kev kawm txog kev puas siab ntsws twg uas koj xav tau kom tau txais
Nyob ntawm seb hom kev xav li cas uas koj xav xyaum, koj yuav tsum tau txais kev kawm hauv tsev, qib, thiab ntawv pov thawj.
- Yog tias koj txaus siab los ua tus neeg ua haujlwm sib tham lossis tus kws pab tswv yim, tom qab ntawd koj yuav tsum tau kawm tiav qib Master hauv ib qho ntawm cov haujlwm no.
- Yog tias koj xav ua tus kws kho kev puas siab ntsws thiab xyaum kho tus mob hlwb lossis lwm yam kev coj ua, koj yuav xav tau Ph. D. degree (Doctor of Philosophy) lossis kws kho mob hauv Psy. D. (Doctor of Psychology Degree). Psy. D. zoo ib yam li Ph. D. tshwj tsis yog tias nws tau txiav txim siab ntau ntxiv rau kev cob qhia cov kws kho mob hlwb los ua kws kho mob hauv ntau qhov chaw kho mob ntau dua li tsom mus rau kev tshawb fawb.
- Yog tias koj txaus siab tshaj plaws los ua kws kho mob hlwb thiab sau cov ntawv sau tshuaj rau kev kho cov tshuaj psychotropic, tom qab ntawd koj yuav xav tau kev kho mob (MD) qib thiab ua tiav peb lossis ntau xyoo kev qhia kev nyob.
Kauj Ruam 2. Xav txog kev ntxiv qee qhov kev kawm ua lag luam
Yog tias koj daim ntawv kawm tiav muab rau lawv, kawm ob hoob kev lag luam los pab koj kom ua tiav ntawm qee qhov pib. Cov no yuav yog cov txiaj ntsig tsis muaj txiaj ntsig thaum koj ntsib nrog kev ua haujlwm koj li kev them nyiaj, teem sijhawm teem sijhawm, thiab lwm yam haujlwm hauv chaw ua haujlwm.
Kauj Ruam 3. Xav txog kev ua haujlwm nrog lwm qhov kev xyaum ua ntej pib koj tus kheej
Nws yuav muaj txiaj ntsig los pib ua haujlwm nrog lwm qhov kev coj ua uas twb tau tsim ua ntej koj tawm ntawm koj tus kheej. Tsis yog qhov no yuav muab rau koj cov nyiaj them uas tau lees paub, tab sis kuj tseem muaj txoj hauv kev sib txuas nrog cov neeg mob, tau txais kev paub dhau los, thiab saib yuav ua li cas thiaj li ua lag luam.
Kauj Ruam 4. Thov daim ntawv tso cai ua haujlwm
Tom qab koj ua tiav koj lub tsev kawm ntawv thiab tau txais koj daim ntawv kawm tiav, koj yuav zoo li yuav tsum tau txais daim ntawv tso cai ua ntej koj tuaj yeem nkag mus rau kev xyaum ntiag tug.
- Txheeb xyuas koj lub xeev cov cai hauv cheeb tsam kom pom daim ntawv tso cai twg uas koj xav tau rau koj hom kev xyaum.
- Feem ntau, cov neeg ua haujlwm hauv zej zog xav tau ob xyoos ntawm kev saib xyuas kev kho mob ua ntej lawv tuaj yeem thov rau daim ntawv tso cai lossis nkag mus rau kev xyaum ntiag tug.
- Cov kws kho kev puas siab ntsws feem ntau yuav tsum ua tiav kev xyaum ua haujlwm thiab muaj ob peb xyoos ntawm kev ua haujlwm ua ntej lawv tuaj yeem tau txais ntawv tso cai ua haujlwm ntiag tug.
- Cov kws kho mob hlwb feem ntau yuav tsum kawm tiav los ntawm lub tsev kho mob raug lees paub, ua tiav qhov chaw nyob, thiab tom qab ntawd dhau qhov kev xeem ntawv tso cai ua ntej lawv tuaj yeem pib lawv tus kheej kev coj ua.
Kauj Ruam 5. Thov daim ntawv tso cai ua lag luam
Ntxiv rau qhov xav tau daim ntawv tso cai ua haujlwm, koj tseem yuav xav tau daim ntawv tso cai ua lag luam ua ntej koj tuaj yeem dai koj tus shingle.
- Yuav muaj cov txheej txheem tshwj xeeb rau npe rau koj lub lag luam nyob ntawm seb koj nyob qhov twg thiab koj cov kab ke hauv cheeb tsam yog dab tsi. Txheeb nrog koj tus neeg lis haujlwm hauv nroog/nroog hauv nroog lossis koj pawg thawj coj hauv nroog kom paub ntau ntxiv.
- Ntxiv rau ua raws koj li txheej txheem hauv nroog, koj tseem tuaj yeem txiav txim siab sau npe koj li lag luam raws li LLC (Lub Tuam Txhab Muaj Peev Xwm Muaj Peev Xwm) lossis PLLC (Lub Tuam Txhab Muaj Peev Xwm Muaj Peev Xwm Muaj Peev Xwm Muaj Peev Xwm). Thaum cov xeev ib leeg muaj cov cai lij choj sib txawv hais txog cov tuam txhab no, sau npe koj li kev coj ua tshiab ua LLC lossis PLLC tuaj yeem pab tiv thaiv koj tus kheej thiab koj tus kheej cov khoom muaj nqis los ntawm kev lav phib xaub thiab foob plaub ntug tiv thaiv koj li kev coj ua. Qhov no ua tsis coj qhov chaw ntawm lwm hom kev pov hwm, txawm li cas los xij, thiab yuav tsis tiv thaiv koj tag nrho los ntawm kev muaj peev xwm foob tus neeg mob.
Kauj Ruam 6. Tau txais kev pov hwm
Nws yog qhov tseem ceeb uas koj ntsib nrog tus kws lij choj lossis tus sawv cev pov hwm kev ua tsis zoo los tham txog yam kev lav phib xaub uas koj xav tau. Nws tseem yog lub tswv yim zoo los tham txog cov teeb meem se nyiaj tau los.
Ntu 2 ntawm 3: Npaj thiab Npaj
Kauj Ruam 1. Txiav txim siab txog koj qhov kev coj ua tshwj xeeb
Txheeb xyuas yam kev xyaum twg uas koj xav kom muaj yog kauj ruam tseem ceeb tom ntej.
- Nqaim nqaim cov neeg mob zoo li cas koj xav pom thiab hom mob twg uas koj xav kho raws li koj qhov tshwj xeeb, qib kawm, thiab/lossis ntawv pov thawj. Qhov no tseem yuav pab koj nqaim qee yam xws li chaw nyob thiab chaw ua haujlwm: yog tias koj tab tom npaj kho menyuam yaus, piv txwv li, koj yuav ua qhov kev xaiv chaw ua haujlwm sib txawv!
- Pom dab tsi lwm tus kws kho kev puas siab puas ntsws hauv koj cheeb tsam muab, thiab nrhiav thaj chaw tsom mus rau qhov uas tsis muaj kev sib tw ntau. Qhov no tuaj yeem pab koj txiav tawm koj tus kheej, tshwj xeeb hauv lub khw.
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Chloe Carmichael, PhD
Licensed Clinical Psychologist Chloe Carmichael, PhD is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist who runs a private practice in New York City. With over a decade of psychological consulting experience, Dr. Chloe specializes in relationship issues, stress management, self esteem, and career coaching. She has also instructed undergraduate courses at Long Island University and has served as adjunct faculty at the City University of New York. Dr. Chloe completed her PhD in Clinical Psychology at Long Island University in Brooklyn, New York and her clinical training at Lenox Hill Hospital and Kings County Hospital. She is accredited by the American Psychological Association and is the author of “Nervous Energy: Harness the Power of Your Anxiety” and “Dr. Chloe's 10 Commandments of Dating.”
Chloe Carmichael, PhD Muaj Ntawv Tso Cai Kho Mob Psychologist
Pib koj tus kheej kev xyaum tuaj yeem ua rau koj muaj kev ywj pheej thiab hloov pauv tau.
Muaj ntawv tso cai kho mob hlwb kws kho mob Dr. Chloe Carmichael hais tias:"
Muaj kev ywj pheej los xyaum kho tus kheej ntau dua hauv koj tus kheej lub neej tuaj yeem pab koj ua tus kws kho mob zoo dua.
Kauj Ruam 2. Txiav txim siab ntawm koj qhov chaw nyob thiab hom tsev
Nyob ntawm seb hom neeg twg koj xav kho, koj tuaj yeem nkag siab qhov chaw koj lub chaw haujlwm yuav yooj yim tshaj plaws nyob qhov twg thiab hom chaw twg zoo tshaj qhov lawv xav tau.
- Qhov zoo tshaj, koj lub chaw haujlwm yuav nyob ze ntawm txoj kev loj lossis txoj kev tsheb npav thiab nkag tau yooj yim.
- Yog tias koj tab tom xav txog kev xyaum ua tsev neeg lossis ua haujlwm nrog menyuam yaus, koj yuav xav tsom mus rau thaj tsam hauv nroog ntau dua li qhov chaw hauv nroog.
- Nrhiav qhov chaw ua haujlwm uas muaj thaj chaw txais tos, chav kho mob zoo, thiab chav me dua rau koj lub chaw haujlwm.
- Yog tias koj tab tom npaj yuav ntsib tsev neeg, nco ntsoov nrhiav chaw ua haujlwm uas muaj chav sib tham loj txaus kom muaj neeg coob coob nyob ua ke.
- Xav txog kev sib faib chaw nrog lwm tus kws tshaj lij hauv chav ua lag luam, lossis qiv qiv chaw los ntawm lwm tus kws tshaj lij. Nov yog qhov kev xaiv zoo rau kev txo qis lwm cov nuj nqis (xws li khoom siv hluav taws xob, khoom siv hauv chaw ua haujlwm, lossis rooj tog zaum).
- Yog tias koj nyob hauv lub tsev loj uas muaj kev nkag cais koj ib txwm tuaj yeem txiav txim siab hloov chav nyob rau hauv qhov chaw kho mob.
Kauj Ruam 3. Nrhiav tus kws qhia
Nws yuav yog qhov muaj txiaj ntsig kom tau txais lus qhia los ntawm tus kws tshaj lij, tshwj xeeb yog ib tus uas pib ua haujlwm ntiag tug. Yog tias koj muaj cov kws tshaj lij qub, kws pab tswv yim, lossis cov phooj ywg hauv chav kawm los ntawm koj qib kev ua haujlwm uas tau mus pib lawv li kev xyaum, tso lawv kab thiab nug seb lawv puas kam qhia tawm tswv yim, lus pom zoo, thiab qhia koj thaum koj pib lag luam.
Kauj Ruam 4. Ua kom nrawm dua nrog kev them nqi pov hwm
Yog tias koj xav lees txais kev pov hwm ntawm koj qhov kev coj ua, npaj nrog ntau lub tuam txhab pov hwm uas muaj npe nrov los npog lawv cov neeg siv khoom. Nws yog qhov zoo tshaj los hu rau cov tuam txhab no ncaj qha los teeb tsa daim nqi raws txoj cai nrog lawv.
Kauj Ruam 5. Ntiav cov neeg ua haujlwm
Yog tias koj tsis npaj yuav ua txhua txoj haujlwm tswj hwm, xws li kev teem sijhawm teem sijhawm, khaws cov ntaub ntawv kho mob, sau nqi, thiab them nyiaj hli, txiav txim siab ntiav qee tus pabcuam pabcuam los muab tes rau koj.
Ntu 3 ntawm 3: Txhim Kho Koj Lub Lag Luam
Kauj Ruam 1. Tsim lub vev xaib tshaj lij
Lub vev xaib muaj zog yuav pab koj ntes lub qhov muag ntawm cov neeg siv khoom tshiab nrhiav kev pab.
- Koj lub vev xaib yuav tsum suav nrog cov lus tshaj tawm txoj haujlwm thiab piav qhia ntxaws txog koj qhov tshwj xeeb.
- Suav nrog qee cov ntaub ntawv hais txog koj tus kheej thiab koj keeb kwm yav dhau, ib yam nkaus, kom cov neeg siv khoom tuaj yeem paub koj thiab pom tias koj puas yuav haum rau lawv.
- Koj yuav tsum suav nrog qee cov ntsiab lus hais txog qhov kev kho mob ib txwm nrog koj zoo li cas, qhov kev pov hwm koj tau them dab tsi, thiab koj tus nqi sib ntsib li cas. Tsis txhob txaj muag txog kev teev koj tus nqi, thiab nco ntsoov tias koj tus nqi ib teev yuav tsum suav nrog cov nqi lag luam thiab nyiaj siv ua haujlwm.
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Chloe Carmichael, PhD
Licensed Clinical Psychologist Chloe Carmichael, PhD is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist who runs a private practice in New York City. With over a decade of psychological consulting experience, Dr. Chloe specializes in relationship issues, stress management, self esteem, and career coaching. She has also instructed undergraduate courses at Long Island University and has served as adjunct faculty at the City University of New York. Dr. Chloe completed her PhD in Clinical Psychology at Long Island University in Brooklyn, New York and her clinical training at Lenox Hill Hospital and Kings County Hospital. She is accredited by the American Psychological Association and is the author of “Nervous Energy: Harness the Power of Your Anxiety” and “Dr. Chloe's 10 Commandments of Dating.”
Chloe Carmichael, PhD Muaj Ntawv Tso Cai Kho Mob Psychologist
Sim ua kom yooj yim li sai tau rau koj cov neeg siv khoom kom pom koj thiab sau koj cov kev pabcuam.
Muaj ntawv tso cai kho mob hlwb kws kho mob Dr. Chloe Carmichael hais tias:"
Kauj ruam 2. Tshaj tawm
Koj yuav tsum tau muag koj cov kev coj ua thiab koj cov kev pabcuam rau cov neeg siv khoom tshiab txhawm rau txhawm rau txhim kho koj txoj kev lag luam, thiab muaj ntau txoj hauv kev kom tau koj lub npe tawm.
- Yog tias koj yog tus tswv cuab ntawm koom haum tshaj lij, xws li American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, koj tuaj yeem sau koj cov kev coj ua hauv lawv phau ntawv teev npe online.
- Koj tseem tuaj yeem tshem tawm cov ntawv tshaj tawm hauv koj nplooj ntawv Yellow Pages lossis ntawv xov xwm.
Kauj Ruam 3. Tsim koj cov neeg siv khoom puag
Ntau dua li tos rau cov neeg siv khoom tshiab los nrhiav koj, txuas ntxiv txhim kho koj cov neeg siv khoom lag luam thiab koj kev coj ua los ntawm kev nquag nrhiav lawv.
- Muab kev sib tham dawb hauv cov chaw xws li tsev kawm ntawv lossis chaw hauv zej zog; qhia koj tus kheej thiab kev coj ua rau cov uas yuav tau txais txiaj ntsig los ntawm koj cov kev pabcuam tshwj xeeb.
- Qhia koj tus kheej rau lwm lub tuam txhab lossis cov kws tshaj lij, xws li kws kho mob, kws qhia ntawv, lossis cov thawj coj kev ntseeg, uas tuaj yeem xa cov neeg tuaj rau koj. Nug lawv yog tias koj tuaj yeem tso qee daim npav ua lag luam rau lawv kom dhau mus rau cov neeg nyiam.
- Network nrog cov kws paub txog kev puas siab puas ntsws uas ua tiav cov kev coj ua tab sis nyob hauv ntau qhov tshwj xeeb tshwj xeeb tshaj li koj li. Ua kom muaj kev sib raug zoo nrog lawv thiab nug seb lawv puas yuav xa cov neeg siv khoom rau koj li kev xyaum kho mob tshwj xeeb.
Kauj Ruam 4. Txuas ntxiv kev cob qhia thiab txhim kho txuj ci tshiab
Txawm tias tom qab koj lub lag luam tiav thiab khiav, ob qho tib si koj thiab koj cov kev xyaum yuav tau txais txiaj ntsig los ntawm kev qhia txuas ntxiv, txhim kho cov txuj ci tshiab, thiab nthuav koj lub qab ntug.
- Saib rau cov haujlwm siab uas muab cov ntawv pov thawj tshwj xeeb hauv thaj chaw. Tsis yog qhov no yuav pab koj txuas ntxiv kom tau txais cov txuj ci tshiab, tab sis koj kuj tseem tuaj yeem txuas nrog.
- Khaws qhov muag ntawm kev tshaj lij. Yuav tsum paub txog txoj haujlwm hloov pauv li cas rau pej xeem kev xav thiab xav tau. Yog tias, piv txwv li, ib hom kev kho mob zoo li poob ntawm kev nyiam, txiav txim siab hloov koj li kev coj ua kom deb ntawm qhov no thiab mus rau yam uas zoo li yog qhov tshiab, xav tau thiab nrhiav tom qab hom kev kho mob.
- Diversify koj cov kev xyaum los ntawm kev ntxiv cov kws tshwj xeeb tshiab thiab koom nrog lwm tus kws kho mob hlwb, lossis los ntawm kev faib mus rau lwm hom kev pabcuam xws li ua haujlwm cob qhia rau cov tuam txhab lossis los ntawm kev ua lawv tus kws pab tswv yim.
Kauj Ruam 5. Txhuam koj cov duab tshaj lij
Kev nthuav dav zuj zus hauv kev coj ua lag luam, suav nrog kev coj tus kheej kev xav, yog los tsim kev cuam tshuam, yooj yim txheeb xyuas tau "hom duab" rau koj tus kheej thiab koj cov kev pabcuam.
- Muab qee qhov kev xav rau hauv koj qhov kev coj ua lub logo; qhov zoo tshaj plaws, nws yuav ua rau pom kev zoo, hais qee yam txog koj thiab koj cov kev pabcuam, thiab ua kom nco tau yooj yim.
- Tau txais kev pom zoo los ntawm cov phooj ywg thiab cov kws tshaj lij tham txog koj cov ntaub ntawv luam tawm (daim npav lag luam thiab ntawv sau) thiab lub vev xaib. Koj xav paub tseeb tias koj cov ntaub ntawv ua lag luam ua rau muaj kev zoo siab thiab qhia koj qhov ua tiav.
- Siv qee lub sijhawm los kho koj lub chaw ua haujlwm décor. Koj lub chaw haujlwm yuav tsum xis nyob thiab xav txog qee yam ntawm koj tus kheej. Txiav txim siab hloov kho me me txhua ob peb xyoos kom nyob tshiab thiab tshiab.
- Khaws koj lub vev xaib mus txog hnub, thiab txiav txim siab suav nrog cov lus pov thawj ntawm tus neeg mob tsis ntev los no (nrog lawv tus kheej zais, tau kawg).
- Xav txog kev nce koj lub web-muaj thiab hluas, "hip" pom los ntawm kev koom nrog cov ntsiab lus ntawm kev tshaj xov xwm. Teem ua tib zoo tab sis, koj tsis xav saib zoo li hluas thiab tsis yog tus kws tshaj lij los ntawm "tweeting" txhua lub sijhawm.
