Kev hlub tus kheej qee zaum raug tso tseg raws li qia dub lossis khav theeb. Txawm li cas los xij, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb thiab feem ntau tsis pom ntawm kev noj qab haus huv. Yog tias koj xav qhia ib tus neeg kom hlub lawv tus kheej, pab lawv txhim kho lawv tus kheej kev hwm tus kheej, thiab muab cov lus qhia ntawm kev khaws cov kev xav tsis zoo hauv kev tshuaj xyuas. Ib qho ntxiv, piav qhia lawv yuav ua li cas thiaj hlub tus kheej los ntawm kev tswj hwm lawv lub cev thiab kev xav zoo.
Cov kauj ruam
Txoj Kev 1 ntawm 3: Txhim Kho Tus Kheej
Kauj Ruam 1. Nyuaj siab tias lawv yuav tsum tsis txhob ua txhaum rau kev hlub lawv tus kheej
Qee tus neeg xav tias kev hlub tus kheej yog qia dub, thiab qhov kev xav zoo txog koj tus kheej yog khav theeb. Yog tias tus neeg koj tab tom pab tau ua txhaum txog kev hlub tus kheej, hais qhia tias tsis muaj ib yam tsis raug nrog qhov ua rau tus kheej zoo.
- Piav tias kev noj qab haus huv tus kheej kev hlub koom nrog lees paub lawv lub zog, lees paub lawv qhov tsis muaj zog, txaus siab rau lawv qhov ua tiav.
- Txheeb cais kev noj qab haus huv tus kheej los ntawm kev khav theeb txog kev ua tiav kom lwm tus xav tias tsis zoo, uas yog tej zaum yog ib qho cim ntawm kev ntseeg tus kheej qis.
- Hais tias kev saib xyuas lawv tus kheej yog ib feem ntawm kev hlub tus kheej. Piv txwv li, siv sijhawm so los ntawm kev ua haujlwm kom tsis txhob qaug zog tsis yog kev qia dub. Nws yog ib feem tsim nyog ntawm kev saib xyuas lub cev thiab lub paj hlwb.
- Hais rau lawv tias kev hlub tus kheej tsis zoo ib yam li kev qia dub. Hloov chaw, piav qhia nws ua "tus kheej puv ntoob." Qhov no txhais tau tias hlub thiab saib xyuas lawv tus kheej, thaum kawg yuav ua rau lawv yooj yim dua rau lwm tus.
Kauj Ruam 2. Qhia lawv kom ua ib daim ntawv teev lawv qhov zoo
Kom lawv sau lawv cov txuj ci, lawv tus yam ntxwv zoo, thiab yam lawv nyiam ua. Piv txwv yuav suav nrog kev ua vaj, muaj kev lom zem zoo, lossis ua kis las zoo.
- Yog tias lawv muaj teeb meem los nrog tus yam ntxwv zoo, qhia rau lawv paub qhov koj qhuas txog lawv. Hais tias, "Koj muaj ntau yam zoo heev! Koj yog tus ua haujlwm hnyav, koj ua tau zoo hauv ntaus pob tesniv, thiab koj ib txwm mob siab los pab koj tsev neeg thiab cov phooj ywg."
- Txhawb kom lawv tsom mus rau lawv cov txiaj ntsig zoo, tab sis sim tsis txhob ua tus thawj coj lossis muab koj tus hlub uas tsis xav tau lus qhia.
Kauj Ruam 3. Piav qhia tias kev saib tus kheej yuav tsum tsis txhob ua raws li lwm tus kev xav
Qhia rau tus neeg uas koj tab tom pab tias muaj cov peev txheej sab nraud thiab sab hauv ntawm tus kheej. Cov peev txheej sab nraud yog ua raws li kev xav ntawm lwm tus neeg, thiab lawv yog qhov zoo tshaj li cov peev txheej sab hauv.
- Qhia lawv, "Koj tus kheej tsim nyog yuav tsum yog los ntawm sab hauv, tsis yog los ntawm lwm tus neeg. Hloov chaw xav kom tau qhab nia zoo yog li lwm tus neeg xav tias koj ntse, kawm nyuaj kom mus txog koj lub hom phiaj lossis vim tias koj muaj nuj nqis kev paub."
- Hais tias, "Nws zoo rau koj zoo siab thaum ib tus neeg qhuas koj, tab sis tsis txhob cia lwm tus neeg qhov kev xav txhais koj. Piv txwv tias ib tus neeg ua rau koj lom zem rau kev kawm ntaus piano. Koj nyiam ua si piano thiab koj ntaus nqi nkauj, yog li lawv qhov kev pom zoo yuav tsum tsis txhob ua qhov txawv."
Kauj Ruam 4. Nco qab lawv tias lawv yuav tsum tsis txhob muab lawv tus kheej piv rau lwm tus
Txhua tus neeg muaj peev xwm sib txawv, ua tau zoo, thiab mob siab rau, yog li qhia rau koj tus neeg hlub kom lees paub lawv qhov ua tau zoo thiab tsis muaj zog. Qhia lawv tias lawv yuav tsum tsis txhob xav phem rau lawv tus kheej vim yog lwm tus txuj ci lossis tus yam ntxwv.
- Hais tias, "Kev khib ntawm ib tus neeg lossis npau taws rau koj tus kheej yuav tsis ua rau koj zoo. Zoo siab rau ib tus neeg uas muaj peev xwm uas koj qhuas. Tsis txhob poob siab ntawm koj tus kheej yog tias koj tsis qhia qhov peev xwm ntawd. Hloov chaw, nco koj tus kheej ntawm koj tus kheej lub zog."
- Txhawb kom lawv ua haujlwm ntawm txhua yam hauv lawv txoj kev tswj hwm, xws li hloov pauv kom zoo dua lossis txhim kho lawv cov peev xwm tswj hwm lub sijhawm. Txawm li cas los xij, yog tias lawv xav ua tus kws ncaws pob zoo tshaj plaws tab sis tsis tuaj yeem ua lub laub, qhia rau lawv tias lawv yuav tsum lees tias lawv tsis tuaj yeem ua tau zoo ntawm txhua yam.
- Siv sijhawm ntau dhau ntawm kev tshaj xov xwm tuaj yeem ua rau muaj kev sib piv tsis zoo. Yog tias tsim nyog, qhia lawv kom txwv lawv lub sijhawm tshuaj ntsuam.
Kauj Ruam 5. Txhawb kom lawv pab lwm tus thiab ua haujlwm pub dawb rau qhov ua rau lawv muaj nuj nqis
Ntxiv rau kev qhia koj tus hlub kom txhim kho lub siab zoo, qhia tias lawv pab lwm tus thaum twg los xij. Kev pab cov neeg hlub thiab ua haujlwm siab dawb yog txoj hauv kev ntawm kev txiav txim siab tus kheej.
- Piv txwv li, lawv tuaj yeem pab lawv tus phooj ywg lossis txheeb ze kawm lossis qiv tes nrog cov phiaj xwm hauv tsev. Lawv kuj tuaj yeem ua haujlwm pub dawb rau lawv qhov laj thawj nyiam, xws li chaw nyob tsiaj, chav ua noj kua zaub, lossis kev qhia rau cov hluas.
- Qhia rau lawv, "Nws nyuaj rau tuav kev xav tsis zoo txog koj tus kheej thaum koj tab tom pab lwm tus. Nws nyuaj rau ntseeg koj tus kheej tias koj tsis zoo thaum koj ua rau lwm tus neeg hnub zoo dua."
Txoj Kev 2 ntawm 3: Nyuaj Siab Tsis Zoo
Kauj Ruam 1. Piav qhia seb yuav txheeb xyuas thiab rov hais lus tsis zoo rau tus kheej li cas
Qhia kom lawv hu lawv tus kheej thaum lawv xav txog tej yam zoo li, "Kuv tsis zoo txaus," lossis "Kuv yuav tsis tuaj yeem ua qhov no." Qhia lawv tias lawv qhia lawv tus kheej, "Nres! Nov yog cov kev xav tsis zoo, lawv tsis muaj txiaj ntsig, thiab kuv muaj lub zog los hloov kuv txoj kev xav."
- Nug lawv, "Koj puas yuav qhia tus phooj ywg ze 'Koj yog tus neeg tsis zoo,' lossis thuam lawv hnyav? Yuav ntau dua, koj yuav qhia rau lawv paub tias lawv yuav tsum ua haujlwm ntawm qee yam hauv txoj kev zoo dua. Es tsis txhob xyaum hais lus tsis zoo rau tus kheej, kho koj tus kheej li koj yuav ua rau koj cov phooj ywg."
- Qhia tias lawv hloov qhov kev xav tsis zoo nrog qhov nruab nrab lossis qhov tseeb. Piv txwv li, es tsis txhob hais tias "Kuv ruam heev, kuv yuav tsis ua lej zoo", qhia tias lawv qhia lawv tus kheej, "Nov yog qhov nyuaj rau kuv, tab sis kuv yuav ua haujlwm kom ua tau zoo dua ntawm qhov ntawd. " Qhov no tuaj yeem pab lawv hloov mus rau kev xav zoo dua.
- Nco ntsoov tias koj tus phooj ywg txaus siab xav hnov cov lus qhia txog kev tswj hwm kev xav tsis zoo. Yog tias lawv tsis teb zoo, nws yuav zoo tshaj los muab qee qhov chaw rau lawv es tsis txhob yuam kev sib tham.
Kauj Ruam 2. Qhia rau lawv tias cov xwm txheej tsis zoo yog tsis hloov pauv
Qhia rau koj tus neeg hlub paub tias koj nkag siab tias lub neej kev muaj teeb meem tuaj yeem zoo li tsis hloov pauv, kov tsis tau, thiab txhua yam puag ncig. Qhia lawv kom xav txog lub hom phiaj es tsis txhob poob siab.
- Qhia lawv, "Kev xav tsis meej, cov lus tsis zoo tsis yog tsim. Hloov chaw 'Kuv yuav tsis ua qhov zoo ntawm no,' hais rau koj tus kheej, 'Yog tias kuv xyaum, kuv tuaj yeem txhim kho,' lossis 'Muaj qee yam uas kuv tsis zoo, thiab tsis ua li cas.'"
- Hais tias, "Tej yam tsis zoo tuaj yeem zoo li lawv yuav nyob ib puag ncig mus ib txhis, tab sis tsis muaj dab tsi nyob ruaj khov. Xav txog lub sijhawm uas koj tau daws nrog cov xwm txheej nyuaj. Tej yam tau zoo dua nyob rau lub sijhawm; tsuas yog hais rau koj tus kheej, 'Qhov no yuav dhau mus.'"
- Sim txhawb lawv los ntawm kev hais tias, "Ua koj qhov zoo tshaj plaws kom pom lub teeb nyob rau qhov kawg ntawm lub qhov. Koj tau kov yeej ntau yam, thiab koj tau muaj zog los ntawm kev kov yeej cov teeb meem yav dhau los."
Kauj Ruam 3. Txheeb xyuas koj tus hlub uas txhua tus ua yuam kev
Qhia lawv kom zam txim rau lawv tus kheej rau qhov lawv ua yuam kev, los ntawm kev hais tej yam ua dag rau txhob txwm ua yam tsis raug. Hloov chaw nyob ntawm yav dhau los, qhia tias lawv mus yuam kev raws li lub hauv paus rau kev loj hlob.
- Coob leej neeg poob pw tsaug zog dhau qhov ua tsis raug lossis hais qee yam txaj muag. Yog tias koj tus neeg hlub nyob ntawm lawv qhov ua yuam kev, qhia lawv, "Txhua tus ua yam txaj muag. Koj tsis tuaj yeem hloov pauv yav dhau los, yog li sim ua kom muaj kev lom zem txog nws."
- Hais tias, "Yog tias koj ua txhaum lossis txiav txim siab tsis zoo, tsis txhob nyob ntawm qhov koj tuaj yeem ua tau. Kawm los ntawm qhov ua yuam kev, txav mus ntxiv, thiab ua qhov zoo tshaj plaws kom tsis txhob ua qhov qub yav tom ntej."
Kauj Ruam 4. Hais kom lawv lees txais tej yam uas tsis dhau lawv tswj tau
Kev lees txais tus kheej tuaj yeem nyuaj, tab sis nws yog ib feem tseem ceeb ntawm kev noj qab haus huv tus kheej kev hlub. Qhia rau koj tus neeg hlub kom txaus siab rau lawv qhov ua tiav, siv zog txhim kho qhov ua tau, thiab lees paub tias qee yam dhau qhov lawv tswj tau.
- Piv txwv li, lawv yuav thuam lawv tus kheej rau yam uas lawv tswj hwm, xws li ua tsis tau zoo ntawm chaw ua haujlwm lossis tsev kawm ntawv. Lawv tuaj yeem txhim kho los ntawm kev siv sijhawm ntau dua kev kawm, nrhiav tus kws qhia, nrhiav txoj hauv kev txhim kho txuj ci, lossis nug lawv tus thawj coj rau cov lus qhia kom ua haujlwm tau zoo dua.
- Txawm li cas los xij, txhua tus yuav tsum muaj qhov tseeb txog cov kev txwv dhau ntawm lawv txoj kev tswj hwm. Piv txwv li, koj yuav hais tias, "Nws tsis ua li cas yog tias koj tu siab tias koj tsis tau ua lub luag haujlwm tseem ceeb hauv kev ua si. Tsab ntawv hais txog luv npaum li cas tus cwj pwm yog, thiab koj siab heev. Lwm txoj hauv kev yuav los rau koj."
Txoj Kev 3 ntawm 3: Xyaum Saib Xyuas Tus Kheej
Kauj Ruam 1. Tham txog qhov tseem ceeb ntawm kev txhawb nqa muaj zog
Thaum ib tus neeg poob siab, lawv cov neeg hlub tuaj yeem pab lawv pom daim duab loj dua. Qhia rau tus neeg koj tab tom pab tias lawv cov phooj ywg thiab tsev neeg tuaj yeem ceeb toom rau lawv tias lawv ntxim nyiam txawm li cas los xij. Ib qho ntxiv, hais tias nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom nyob ib puag ncig lawv tus kheej nrog cov neeg zoo, txhawb nqa.
Lawv yuav tsum zam cov neeg uas tso lawv tseg lossis thuam lawv tas li. Hloov chaw, lawv yuav tsum nrhiav kev sib raug zoo nrog cov neeg uas txaus siab thiab txhawb lawv
Kauj Ruam 2. Muab tswv yim rau lawv txog kev tswj hwm lawv txoj kev noj qab haus huv tag nrho
Thaum ib tus neeg hlub lawv tus kheej, lawv mob siab rau saib xyuas lawv txoj kev noj qab haus huv. Nyob rau hauv lem, kev noj qab haus huv txhawb nqa tus kheej lub ntsej muag zoo, uas txhawb ntxiv kev hlub tus kheej.
- Qhia lawv kom noj zaub mov kom noj qab nyob zoo uas muaj zaub, txiv hmab txiv ntoo, cov protein qis, thiab cov nplej tag nrho.
- Qhia kom lawv qoj ib ce tsawg kawg 30 feeb hauv ib hnub. Qhia cov dej num xws li taug kev nrawm lossis dhia, dhia, caij da dej, thiab yoga.
- Qhia rau lawv paub tias kev so yog ib qho tseem ceeb, thiab lawv yuav tsum tau pw li 7 txog 9 teev ntawm txhua hmo.
Kauj Ruam 3. Qhia kom lawv nrhiav cov haujlwm uas ua rau lawv muaj kev xyiv fab
Qhia rau koj tus neeg hlub kom teem sijhawm rau lawv yam koj nyiam thiab tso cai rau lawv tus kheej kom muaj kev lom zem. Txawm hais tias lawv cov haujlwm zoo tshaj yog nyeem phau ntawv zoo lossis nce pob zeb, ua qhov lawv nyiam txhawb kev hlub uas lawv muaj rau lawv tus kheej.
Yog tias lawv hais tias lawv tsis muaj yam koj nyiam lossis nyiam, muab cov lus qhia lossis hais qhia rau lawv ntawm lawv txoj kev mob siab rau. Piv txwv li, koj yuav hais tias, “Kuv paub tias koj muaj aub; koj tuaj yeem mus rau cov tiaj ua si tshiab lossis taug kev taug kev ua ke. Tej zaum koj tuaj yeem mus rau qhov nrawm lossis ua kom yuam kev chav kawm ua ke."
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- Nco ntsoov tias koj yuav tsis xav muab ntau cov lus qhia uas tsis xav tau. Sim tsis txhob ua tus thawj, xyuas kom tus neeg tau txais txiaj ntsig, thiab thim rov qab yog tias lawv tsis txaus siab.
- Yog tias tus neeg koj tab tom pab muaj teeb meem pom lawv tus kheej hauv qhov zoo, lawv yuav tau txais txiaj ntsig los ntawm kev sab laj. Qhia lawv tham nrog tus kws tshaj lij yog tias lawv thim tawm ntawm cov haujlwm ib txwm muaj, zoo li tu siab tas li, lossis yog koj xav tias lawv yuav ua rau lawv tus kheej puas tsuaj.
- Hais kom lawv xav txog lawv cov kev sib raug zoo. Puas muaj leej twg hauv lawv lub neej uas tso lawv tseg lossis ua lwm yam uas ua rau lawv xav tias tsis zoo rau lawv tus kheej? Yog tias muaj, lawv yuav xav txiav kev sib txuas lossis txwv lawv lub sijhawm nrog cov neeg ntawd.
